How to Use Sex Toys So You Feel the Most Pleasure

How to Use Sex Toys So You Feel the Most Pleasure

Did you realize that sex toys have existed for almost 30,000 years? "Our forefathers had been crouched over cutting eight-inch-long penises out of siltstone," author Hallie Lieberman writes in Buzz: A Stimulating History of the Sex Toy. Fortunately, sex toys—and views around them—have progressed much since then.

 

Until the previous several decades, sex toys were more or less forbidden, but they're now more mainstream than ever. According to clinical psychologist and sex expert Carla Manly, Ph.D., this might be attributed to several variables. "There is a more open attitude about sexuality in general," she adds, "which has helped to destigmatize their usage." "As our understanding of sexuality grows, we're developing a more open, natural attitude toward formerly taboo or off-limits sexual acts, such as the usage of novel sexual toys." Plus, sex devices are becoming more widely available online and in local shops."

 

According to Tiffany Alyse Yelverton, sex coach and creator of sex education site EnticeMe, the popularity of sex toys are partially due to women becoming more open about their desire––and need––for pleasure. "Sex toys increase pleasure and heighten foreplay, which most women must enjoy intercourse," she explains. "Most women, particularly during penetrative intercourse, need clitoral stimulation to orgasm."

 

In her work as a sex coach, Yelverton has discovered that men, particularly young men, are more amenable to using sex toys with a partner than in the past. She continues, "The latest generations of sex toys are lovely and not phallic." "They supplement, not a substitute for, sexual engagement."

 

If you've never used sex toys before––or if you've glanced at an internet shop and are overwhelmed by the choices––Yelverton offers some advice for you. First and foremost, she advises her customers to "consider sex devices as an addition to their sex life, much as a necklace is to an outfit."

 

She proposes beginning with a vibrating "bullet" or "egg," a wand, a rabbit-style vibrator, or a vibrating penis ring, all of which are beautiful and comfortable to you. Don't forget to bring along some high-quality lubrication ("it improves everything") and toy cleaning (for obvious reasons).

 

If you're interested in vibrating sex toys, Yelverton suggests going for a rechargeable type. She continues, "The vibrations are greater, and there's no added expense (or waste) involved with batteries."

 

Vibrating Rabbit

According to Yelverton, a rabbit-style vibrator is a terrific technique for a woman to attain orgasm with a partner. "In addition to internal vibrations, it delivers exterior clitoral stimulation." But it's not only for alone enjoyment. "We don't usually think of rabbit toys for usage with a companion," she explains, "but this sort of toy is great." "It's simpler for a woman to orgasm a second time when she's brought to orgasm before intercourse, so utilizing a toy that almost guarantees orgasm, like a rabbit, is a fantastic alternative.

 

 

Vibratory bullet

As a first vibrator, you can't go wrong with a bullet vibe. It's little, inconspicuous, silent, and affordable, yet it packs a punch. Depending on your model, it may have several speed and pattern settings. It's mostly used for clitoral stimulation, but like with any sex toy, you're only limited by your imagination.

 

"A bullet vibe may be particularly beneficial to hold on the clitoris for added stimulation during intercourse, and it can easily be inserted between two bodies during sex," Yelverton explains. She also points out that it isn't phallic or intimidating to guys.

 

Vibrating wand

A wand, which is generally considerably bigger than a standard vibrator and a bullet vibe, might be scary to sex toy newbies. Its expanded head and lengthy body (from neck massagers meant to relieve achy muscles) may take things up a level if you're ready to go on to something bigger and more powerful.

 

"A wand can be utilized in many ways with a variety of body types, and it's a terrific all-around device to have," Yelverton explains.

 

 

Penis ring that vibrates

According to the sex toy website Lovehoney, the penis ring, also known as a vibrating cock ring, is the most commonly recommended sex toy for couples for various reasons. First and foremost, it aids in restricting blood flow to the penis for stronger erections, delays ejaculation, and is quite easy to use. It's a fantastic purchase, according to Yelverton, since it can provide pleasure to two people at the same time, and it can also be used in conjunction with another toy for even more sex toy enjoyment.

 

Dildo

The classic old-fashioned dildo is a must-have for any sex toy compilation. This specific toy is quite popular with Americans. According to Lovehoney's 2017 Sex Toy Census, customers in the United States are more likely to purchase a realistic dildo than those in the United Kingdom, Australia, or Germany.

 

In reality, sex toy customers all over the globe still can't get enough of the dildo, which, unlike a vibrator, is controlled by hand (the user's or a partner's). Some dildos are cylinder-shaped and smooth, while others are made to resemble a genuine penis. "Some ladies like a realistic dildo because it looks and feels more like a penis, so it's not like using an inanimate thing," Yelverton explains. "I find that males are less open to the dildo because they may regard it as a competition."

 

In the end, like with other sex toys, it boils down to personal choice. It's part of the pleasure to figure out what works for you.