Butt plug guide for beginners
Butt plug guide for beginners: How to use a butt plug
Butt plugs and anal vibrators don't have to be an intimidating thing at all, and they can in fact be super fun to play with either during masturbation or coupled sex. They're not just sex toys for men and people with penises, either. If you're a beginner, and aren't sure how to use anal sex toys butt plugs are a great place to start. Wearing a butt plug during any kind of sex act can enhance your pleasure and potential orgasms, thanks to the tons of nerve endings around the anus. You can get silicone butt plugs, vibrating butt plugs, glass anal plugs and plugs that are designed for prostate massage. They're also great if you're wanting to learn how to prepare for anal sex.
Butt plug guide for beginners
1. Use lots of lube
"Unlike the vagina, the anus does not produce its own lubricant, so liberal application of lube is a must for optimum comfort and safety," Sex expert says. "For drawn-out anal play, regular lube top-ups are definitely a good idea."
Lube not only makes sex and play safer because it reduces the risk of injury, tearing and soreness, but it makes it feel way better too. Just make sure that if you're using a silicone butt plug, the lube you accompany it with is water-based. Silicone lube reacts badly with silicone toys, so always avoid using them together. Lube designed specifically for anal play tends to be thicker and longer-lasting, so you don't have to apply it so often.
2. Take it easy and go slowly
Like with any new sex stuff you're trying out, remember not to go in there all guns blazing. "Start gently and slowly," Sex expert says. "It’s essential that you are relaxed to enjoy anal play."
Make sure you've spoken about your expectations and any concerns with your partner first, if you're trying a butt plug during partnered sex for the first time. If you're going it alone, take your time. Start with a small toy, and gradually get acquainted with it and more comfortable. Insert it slowly and just sit there with it inside and see how it feels. Once you become comfortable (and aroused) you can graduate to a larger or more advanced toy.
3. Don't make any butt plug judgments
Regardless of your gender identity/sexuality, as long as you have a butt, butt plugs can be thoroughly enjoyable. "One of the greatest sex myths is that women and people with vaginas don’t enjoy anal sex, and that they only partake in a little bum fun to make their partner happy," Sex expert says. "It's simply not true. Using a butt plug can make all kinds of sex feel more pleasurable for women." In the same way, it's not just gay, bisexual and queer men and penis-havers who use butt plugs. Using a butt plug as a straight, cisgender man doesn't have any bearing on your sexuality.
Sure, men and people with penises have their own little G-spot known as the P-spot (the prostate, more on that below) that can be stimulated through anal play and fingering. But it can still feel really good for everyone else too thanks to the nerve endings that live down there.
4. Learn how to massage the prostate or P-spot
If you are using a butt plug with a penis-haver, listen up. "The prostate is an incredibly sensitive gland that feels especially satisfying when stroked, and it’s most easily located about two to three inches up on the anterior (front) wall of the anus," Sex expert says. "It’s true that some men and people with penises can experience an orgasm and/or ejaculation just from having their prostate stimulated, although it does take practice and patience. These orgasms are said to feel more intense than an orgasm from stimulation of the penis, causing the whole body to throb with climactic energy."
5. Enjoy the pressure
"A butt plug creates more pressure on the back vaginal wall, increasing the level of sensation a person experiences," Sex expert explains. "Many people with vaginas also enjoy using a butt plug while receiving oral sex. At climax, orgasmic contractions around a butt plug can feel more intense than without, and stimulate the nerve endings around the anus that usually get overlooked."
So, even if you are a woman or vagina-having person, there are various ways you can enjoy a butt plug.
6. Using a butt plug for penetration with a partner (they can feel the difference too)
If someone with a vagina wears a butt plug, their partner may also notice a difference in sensation if they're penetrating them. Sex expert says, "By inserting a butt plug, the amount of space in the pelvis is reduced, and as a result the vagina feels tighter and more textured." So whether your partner has a penis, or is stimulating your vagina with their fingers, they'll probs notice you feel a little different.
How to choose the best butt plug for you
When picking your first butt plug, it's best to go for a slimmer and simpler beginners butt plug and work your way up from there. The first rule of butt plugs, is ALWAYS make sure the toy you choose has a or wider base. Unlike the vagina, the anus can 'suck' things up there. Toys with wide bases have no chance to get lost up in there. Beware, there are many anal toys available to buy that don't have these safety features and that aren't safe to use. So always, always, always look for a wide base.
Best butt plugs for beginners
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